Ramblings of a Middle Aged Lunatic

                I’m going to say this once, for the people in the back.  As a former victim, I am going to be speak for those bullying victims that do not currently have a voice.                Do not, under any frigging circumstances, walk up to us because there’s been a school shooting and you think we might snap.   Good God.   Whomever came up with this wonderful concept has no idea what it is to be bullied, has forgotten what the social dynamics are in schools, and honestly, doesn’t have the slightest clue.                 I know we all want to believe that the perpetrators of school shootings are bullied children rising up in outraged majesty to slay their tormentors.   We want to believe this because it’s a simple answer to a very complicated issue, and it represen...

                You’ve survived your childhood trauma.   Many years have passed.   You’re over it.   Aren’t you? But you keep finding yourself back in similar situations, as if you are deliberately recreating them.   What gives?                 It’s not your imagination.   Those of us who overcame problematic childhoods are drawn to the same type of people that once made our lives hell on earth.   It’s what we’re used to, and it feels familiar, even though it hurts.   Recognizing such individuals before we get too emotionally invested is an important step in breaking toxic patterns.                 What are the signs that you’re getting involved with a toxic person? 1)       You Catch Them in ...

                This week Florida legislatures introduced a bill that would provide the parents of bullied school children with vouchers that can be used for private schools.                   Social media went nuts.   I would like to say I was surprised by the victim-shaming negativity that heralded such a bill, but all I felt was a profound weariness.                   This is my response to the naysayers, and I’ll be addressing the points I saw being raised in criticism of this bill. 1)       Private School Kids Get Bullied Too                 This is one of those knee-jerk responses that drives me crazy because they display a lack o...